Open letter to all dating

Like, what other way is there for me to say that combination of words to you? So gay, in fact, that I would love nothing more than to publicly trick you into making love to me atop an espresso machine. I don’t need to add your unwarranted rejection to that list.

(Believe me, I am totally over the Verizon people calling me “Ma’am” on the phone.) And anyway, how else am I supposed to ask you out for coffee? “Dude, I’m flattered you’d invite me out to coffee, but I just need to remind you how fabulously gay I am. ” Do you know how frustrating it is to be turned down romantically when I’m not even asking for it? I get enough no’s from the gay men I actually ask out.

And I can’t express to you how much I apologize to you for it.

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But you have to know that I have nothing to gain from this. Or above all, if your night will end in variations of happiness, or with your body on the floor. I have worked tirelessly to get back to the human I was before him, and while I know I’m forever changed, having my sense of person back has been the best feeling I could ask for-and exactly why I don’t want you to ever lose it in the first place. I never wanted to have to worry or care about the next one, as I’m still and will always be healing myself. Join us on Facebook to read the best break up letters on the internet!

My life is amazing, it’s peaceful, and it’s complete. I am the woman you wrote that letter to, I met and fell in love with this person you were once married to. I wish I had read your letter or at least one like it and had been warned before hand. I trusted him with my heart and my kindness and allowed him into my life and he left me nearly destroyed. They never take account for any of their actions and continue to tear destruction where ever they go.

Do you really think that every time I ask you out to coffee/drinks/gym, I’m really hoping for snuggles/butterflykisses/softcore S&M?

Or, maybe you think my only goal in life is to have indiscriminate sex whenever I can.

Your friends will become a seemingly distant memory. I’m sure your family is a loving, supportive group of people and you will want to involve him in this because you love him (or will love him) and also a small part of you hopes that your family will rub off on him and give him something he never had. He had (and has) a wonderful family that he CHOSE to do the things he did to, not the other way around.

He had all the love and support and sunshine and rainbows and butterflies and puppies that anyone could ever ask for-and it still wasn't good enough. The truth about this man is simple: he does not know how to love. I can sit here and name every horrible thing that occurred throughout our relationship and marriage, but I don’t think you want to hear it, and frankly I have worked extremely hard to stop reliving it. The wounds on my body have healed, but the scars that have remained are deep. I’m sorry that I allowed him to believe that what he was doing to me was right for as long as I did, because now he very well could do this to you.

He is a broken bird who which you instinctively want to save, but my darling girl, you simply cannot. He will tell you he’s done with you at least a dozen times in those moments yet doesn't mean it, but for your own sake, I hope that you do.

He will tell you it’s because of his drinking, or because of his father, or because of the life that’s been handed to him.

It’s only recently that I’ve earned the right to get married or to not be hate-crimed.

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