Not technically dating
We should be keeping texts to a minimum, brief and informational, she says.
During your mutual overshare over text/Facebook/Instagram, you learn too much about him—his work, friends, families, dog, taco preferences, favorite shows. You realize you want absolutely nothing, zero, zip, to do with him.
He's texting you just to say, "good night;" lavishing you with compliments. In some cases, you might even hope to Jesus that you never f*cking see him again.
I didn't want to take it any further, or lead him on, but since we had talked for a legit amount of time before actually hanging out, I felt like I had to "break up" with him rather than do the "slow fade" or just stop talking to him cold turkey.
According to our girl Marni, my situation happens all the time.
But your vision of what they are isn't even close to what the person actually is."This is how you might find yourself, like I did, having to break up with someone you're not even dating.
I recently connected with a a super sweet, super cute gentleman who happened to be one of Cosmo's 50 Hottest Bachelors 2012.
There's only one problem: He wants to keep seeing you."I call this 'pseudo intimacy,'" says Marni Battista, dating and relationship expert and founder of Datingwith
"You act like you're getting to know the person through Facebook chatting, texting, talking on the phone, and getting a sense of who they are, all while simultaneously conjuring up this whole fantasy of what you want them to be.
We'd met months ago and he reached out to me after spotting me on Cosmo's Instagram, modeling a pair of wine-colored leather pants.
(He commented, "marry me." This should have been a sign of the pseudo intimacy to come.) I was dating a guy who was pretty emotionally unavailable at the time, but after we broke up, I reached out to Bachelor, who lives in another state, and we started texting and talking on the phone for almost a month.
At first I loved how I never had to wait for his texts or calls to come through. But then he started mentioned marrying me—multiple times—and dropping that he'd love to take me to his friend's wedding. Soon, Bachelor was coming to NYC for work and we planned to meet up in the flesh.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating