Dating an overweight woman
The quest for 50 Fat Dates continues so keep an eye out for date #19.I’m going back to my ‘type’ and see what happens this time.“Paul Eastwick and I have done tons of work showing that although men and women differ in how much they say they want physical attractiveness in a partner,” Finkel noted, “these sex differences disappear once people have met a flesh-and-blood person.” That is, in real life, men and women are equally concerned with looks, even though men are conditioned to act like they think looks are a biggerdeal.
I was catfished, stood up, and lied to multiple times. One guy had a girlfriend and was looking for someone to ‘join the relationship’ (yes a threesome) another had a girlfriend, (I only found out when she tracked me down and sent me an e-mail with photographic evidence warning me of his ‘ways’ and a thinly veiled warning of b*tch get away from my man).
There was the sexy ex-military guy turned comedian who lived with his mum, the gun enthusiast who ran me through what he’d do to an intruder (taser them until they poop themselves wait for them to wake and taser them again apparently), the super nice Spaniard (there was no spark but we loved the bottomless champagne and orange juice at brunch), and the lumbersexual I met while shooting a movie (he was an extremely tall hipster and I wondered if he’d ever actually chopped wood). The good guys I dated were a bit middle of the road with no spark. No one freaked when they saw I was fat in real life as well as in my dating profile. He said he was single (he’d been married 33 years). He said he was a property developer (he was a CFO for a rapper worth $820M).
Men are still “perceived to be more agentic, assertive, dominant, and women more dependent, emotional,etc.” There’s an ingrained assumption, then, that men have stuff to “trade,” but women don’t, and this assumption is part of the reason it’s still seen as weird when an unattractive woman dates an attractive man — what could she possibly be trading?
Being female in today's societies comes loaded with physical expectations.
The only way this was going to happen was if I set myself a goal, a target or had a plan.
I started thinking it through, “What if I just did one date a week? “If I did that for a year I’d date 50 people.” That’s huge!
Although, (spoiler alert) one of the 50 Fat Dates actually did come knocking on my door.
He was a plumber sent by the landlord to fix the toilet and we ended up on a date (he was #17).
He eventually relents and they spend an enjoyable day strolling around New York and cracking each other up — until she refers to herself as fat and Louie tells her she isn’t.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating