At the same time, on the weekends, while Eleanora was working, Simone and I would go out and explore, because she was helping me get familiar with the city.
Hanna agrees that the start was “emotional and intense” and says, “We learned a lot about each other during our first months living together and that helped us overcome problems, like talking things through and understanding the logic behind our respective habits and compulsions... Most of our romance happens via IM and well-timed retweets. I think [autism activist and animal scientist] Temple Grandin once said that her idea of a romantic dinner was a candle-lit conversation about data-storage software.
Finding out what the larger issue is when one of us is pissy about something small — like dishes or which cabinet something should go in — helps a whole lot.”I asked them how it’s been living as a couple but surrounded by roommates, to which Tyler responded, “I think our last few living situations represented phases of the relationship. Our version is not too far off.”Hanna agrees that it’s the unorthodox things that serve to keep their relationship a happy one.
Unfortunately for Jack and Eleanora, the strain had already taken its toll on their relationship.
“I decided that the way Eleanora acted was enough and that we should go our separate ways. It took some time to get over, but now it's just a funny story from our past.”While Jack’s story puts a bleak spin on an already unpromising situation, I managed to track down a couple who made shared living in small apartments work for them.
But, what happens when you get settled into couple life and want to spend more time at home?
How can the constant presence of other people coupled with the excruciatingly small spaces we inhabit in New York City be reconciled with a desire to snuggle on the couch, cook romantic candle-lit dinners, or generally nurture the intimacy For some, the awkwardness of shared living is overwhelming and puts undue stress on a relationship.
The strain in the apartment grew as Eleanora, who lived in Westchester, but worked in Manhattan as a bartender, would spend more and more nights staying with Jack in order to avoid the commute.
“The first trigger for Simone was that Eleanora would dirty up the common area with clothes and unwashed dishes, mostly left around because she worked late nights.
New York isn’t typically known for its palatial living spaces.
More often than not, you’ll find yourself squished into what feels like a broom closet, with all your earthly possessions, wondering why you bothered to accumulate so many damn things in the first place.
When Jack, a 29-year-old banker, moved in with his childhood friend, Simone, he found the stress of his domestic situation to be too much for his relationship with his girlfriend of four years, Elenora.“When I moved to New York, my best friend Simone already had an apartment in a pre-war condo building in Sunnyside, Queens, so I sublet her spare room," Jack says.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating