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Then ask her if she thinks a 25 year old guy who dates a 17 year old is actually expressing maturity? You expect her to have relationships, that's normal.But you're worried that, because of where he is in life, it will distract her from her goals. It's unlikely you'll convince her to dump him, but if you can express your concerns thoughtfully, you may plant enough seeds with her. On the plus side, the Guy has been in contact, so he's not just some shady stranger, and now that this is out in the open you can at least try to set some rules.Obama will drop Joe Biden as VP and ask John Walker Lindh to be his new running mate.
YMMV, it doesn't sound like your daughter is heavy into rebellion, but you don't want to get into the whole forbidding/I can do whatever I want! That usually creates a motivation for the child to act just to make a point to the parents.
Also, try to validate her feelings on this - I suspect she finds his "maturity" attractive, let her know that you understand that and admire that she values maturity. I think it would be important to express that you feel finishing school and focusing on college should be a priority.
As for The Guy, if he comes around treat him with respect, but I wouldn't be afraid to tell him you don't approve, and think he acted very unwisely in persuing her and that you hope she grows out of this phase. On the minus, even the smartest, most mature teenage girls in the world have been known to just equate age with authority and let themselves be pressured or abused by older boyfriends just because 'I really want him to like me, and he thinks I'm so mature.' The lying? And you might also ask her how she would feel about a male (or female, I guess) friend her own age dating a 12- or 13-year old (not the same difference in years, but IMHO you change just as much in those years as you do in your late teens and your twenties). You said your daughter is smart and has a good head on her shoulders and that the guy doesn't come off as a sleeze.
I doubt that he'll treat her worse than a 18-19 year old guy would. This may color my answer, but I do think I was at a place where I could treat her like a real and valuable person much better that when I was younger and more insecure. My personal hunch is that however "mature" your daughter finds this guy, he's personally emotionally immature enough that he feels more comfortable being the big guy around teenagers than to be around peers his own age. They are probably relying on luck right now, and the last thing you/they need is a pregnancy.
I feel like I can only condone or condemn the relationship, and neither one really sounds like the right thing.
We made it to 17 without a bit of trouble, and now I just dont know how to handle it.I dont want to push her away with ultimatums and demands, as she will be 18 soon; she could just go do whatever she wants anyway, then.Conversely, I dont want to treat the situation too lightly. You can piss her off for the next six months trying to prevent something she will do anyways, or you can realize there is nothing much you can do, there is not that much of an age difference and she's not a little kid anymore.A teen can spend six months in a bad relationship to avoid having an awkward conversation explaining it to their mom.I know it seems impossible, but I think you want to treat the relationship as casually as possible.I suspect she's not as level headed as you think she is.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating